Room to breathe
At last, I’ve finished high school for good. No more uniform, no more bells ringing periodically. Except of course for the fact I want to become a teacher. There are so many things I’ve been waiting to do, and now my exams are all over, I can finally get on with it.
I want to become more fluent in German, because I have neglected it since I went to Germany almost a year ago. I want to get started on learning Japanese because I have a conditional at Edinburgh Uni to study it. To be honest, I don’t think I did well enough in my exams to get in, but it’s better to be optimistic. I think it’s important to keep your self-esteem no matter what happens.
Speaking of self-esteem, I was watching a documentary about Vaginoplasty today. I felt incredibly sorry for some of the women on it. One girl had been verbally torn apart by some men in a club because of the way her labia looked. How petty and ridiculous is that? As if it wasn’t bad enough the way people are treated based on their breasts or their tummies, now the aesthetics of the vagina is a problem. One plastic surgery had seen a 300% increase in labia reductions; many of the patients were only around 16 years old.
Well of course we know what this is going to be blamed on. Porn. This is an excuse. Yes of course porn shows an unrealistic perfection in people’s bodies. But can’t we see through this and realise that porn is just a fantasy? You wouldn’t watch a film about human flight and then jump off a cliff. No, we need to be more realistic. Porn isn’t to blame, our society is.
We ourselves perpetuate this behaviour. We try too hard to emulate what is clearly impossible and then that kind of standard is passed on. The taboos of sex and body image need to be forgotten, and we need to become more comfortable with ourselves.
It just makes me so sad and disgusted when people would rather change their own body rather than the way they see themselves. If your boy/girlfriend doesn’t like the way you look, well then, what on earth are you doing with them? Another part of the documentary showed young Muslim women going for hymen reconstruction because on their wedding nights, if their hymen wasn’t intact, they could be punished, even killed because it would mean they were not a virgin. This is happening right here in the UK. Apart from the fact that you can break your hymen from activities such as horseriding, what’s the big deal with losing your virginity before marriage anyway? Virginity is a meaningless word. Having sex makes you no less of a person, it doesn’t change anything. People still seem to think it’s some kind of dark magical act that will make you impure and evil.
Our society is in desperate need of reform.
“The Perfect Vagina” can be watched here.
Amour
Now this is an interesting subject, isn’t it? A lot of the time, it seems to cause more trouble than good. But that can easily change, just by the way you look at it. Of course, there are always going to be people that you simply can’t get along with, maybe they are so problematic that you can’t fix anything. But most of the time, there are things you can consider to make your relationships work better.
I think that love is one of the most important parts of life. It’s close to impossible trying to live alone. I wouldn’t say I’m a very social person at all, but my life would truly suck without people to love.
If you’ve been reading any of my previous posts, you might have tried to learn to love yourself. This is important before even considering loving anyone else. If you don’t know what you want; don’t understand yourself, your needs and bad points, you won’t be able to handle a meaningful relationship.
A lot of people are not going to agree with me on this, but I think that it is possible to love just about anyone. That’s right. Just about anyone. It does make sense. You love your family even though you had no choice in the matter. It doesn’t matter what sort of personality they have, you love them all the same. That’s because you care about them. It’s a human thing. Therefore, this can extend into your relationships with anyone.
It’s true that if you get to know someone too well, you can get bored of them, but that can easily be combated by changing yourself every so often. Of course, your partner has to do this too. People change their personality a bit roughly every seven years, but if you get too comfortable with someone, you might not undertake this change. This is why it is important to retain yourself when you get into a relationship. Too many stop caring about themselves once they think they have the person for them.
You stop looking after yourself when you have no one to impress.
You cannot neglect people like this. Keep your life different and exciting and trust me, life will be great, your partner and yourself will not become predictable. Love is something that anyone can feel for anyone else, given the right circumstances. That’s the most important thing.
Well, that’s my opinion anyway!
