Loud and proud!
“The next time anyone tells you that only losers masturbate, or that they don’t, and never would, bear this in mind: according to most studies and surveys, about 95% of adults have masturbated or continue to do so. Were many falsehoods and misconceptions about masturbation true, it would mean that 95 out of every 100 people would be blind, infertile, drooling psychopaths with hair on their palms and shrunken genitals.” – scarleteen
Despite the fact that nearly everyone does it, there are still many people who are uncomfortable and embarrassed about their own natural urges. Not to mention those who think that it’s wrong or say it goes against their religion! In the mid 20th century, only half of all men asked owned up to masturbating and far fewer women did. It’s a lot less taboo now, but many of us still have preconceptions and old-fashioned views when it comes to playing with ourselves.
Well girls and boys, today we’re going to have a bit of sex education! It’s important to learn as much as you can about sex, even if you don’t plan on having sex or having a partner in the near future. The ‘Sexperts’ at Scarleteen have possibly the most comprehensive guides to all things kinky all in one place, alongside a message board and book recommendations.
According to Heather Corinna of Scarleteen, one of the most important things for your sexual self is to choose yourself as your first partner.
“We hear a whole lot about who should be our first partner. Most of the time, we’re told it should be someone we love and who loves us back, someone committed to us long-term, perhaps even someone we plan to spend the rest of our lives with. I agree completely, because you, all by yourself, have all of those qualities, more than any other person ever can.”
So why is it so important to do anything for your sexuality when it doesn’t involve another person? Sex is all about reproduction, right? Furthering the species and all that.
No way. Not only is that absolutely no fun whatsoever, but masturbation has a lot of health benefits, physical and mental. Don’t believe me? Let’s have a look at what masturbation can do for you.
Firstly, it’s exercise! If you do it rigorously enough, you can be burning well over 100 calories every 20 minutes. And feel that heart pumping! Your circulatory system will thank you.
Regular ejaculation has been proven to decrease prostate cancer in men, and orgasming releases endorphins, making you feel less stressed and sad, and giving you an overall feeling of wellness. Now isn’t that wonderful? It can also cure a headache or any other achey feeling.
Not only that, but by keeping an eye on your down-belows, you’ll be able to detect any health problems you might not have noticed without having a good feel down there.
Furthermore, it helps you discover what you like. You can explore and experiment as much as you like without the pressure of needing to perform for someone else. Then when you’ve found out what makes you go ‘WOW’, you’ll be able to tell your future partner so that both of you can have as much fun as possible.
Finally, even if you are religious, there is no proof that masturbation is evil or wrong. Upon further research, I discovered a page for Christian masturbators. Now you have no excuse!
So, my dears, what’s stopping you? Oh, you don’t know how to do it? Don’t worry, it’s really quite simple. Just do whatever feels best. And if you really don’t know, there are plenty of guides on the internet! Just be careful what you’re clicking on…
Anyway, masturbation can do wonders for everyone. Be proud, loud and not too embarrassed to admit to your hot masturbation skills. I think you’ll find you’re not alone. If you still need more convincing, I really do recommend Scarleteen, guys and girls alike. Sex ed, self-esteem, pregnancy, relationships, everything.
Right, I’ll be back after I get off to some hot gay porn.
Into the rhythm
I still can’t believe I spent the whole of July in Germany.
Shy little me, never before travelled beyond the shores of the UK.
It wasn’t even a holiday. Now it’s all behind me, and all I have is experience and memories. That’s the most valuable thing you can ever gain, even though some things weren’t quite as positive as I would have been comfortable with. And my goodness, is it stressful speaking a foreign language constantly for a whole month! Trying to be articulate enough to be understood is difficult, but then you have to be social with the other people, some of whom were from countries I had never even heard of. I’ve never talked so much in my whole life, which is strangely ironic, given the fact that my German was not exactly the best in the whole group.
To be quite honest, I don’t think I’ll even keep up with the people from my group much longer. I added all the people I met on Facebook, but I was only very close to about four people. I resolved to be talkative and friendly, but I guess old habits die hard. There was a clear gap between my little group of friends and the loud, typical bunch.
I don’t want to go into too much detail, I’ll discuss things more in detail in other posts, when they become relevant. Of use to a certain theme, you could say.
Something I want to make clear is that when you do something that has a big effect, it builds the foundation or helps structure you. What you bring into conversation, how you see things, your opinions. Everything is effected most by the things that make you uncomfortable or take you out of what you’re used to. Do you remember what happened last Thursday? Probably not. It hasn’t had a big effect on you, and only helps scrape the spare cement off. (But if you’re a procrastinator like me, it didn’t even do that much.)
We all need something to remember. We all need something to look forward to. When you are just stagnating in daily routine, life seems pointless. Anticipate something. Even if it’s just giving yourself a little reward at the end of the week or trying something scary, or making a new friend. Trust me.
I’m building.
In other news, the LHC has a final official start-up date! 10th of September and the (I assume) lovely physicists at CERN will flick the switch to perhaps discovering something incredible- world changing even. I’m looking forward to it.
The Guardian newspaper online has collected quite a few interesting things about it-
http://www.guardian.co.uk/science/cern
Tschüss!